What happened to our lives?

That was the question my husband asked me this morning....

Last night we had a flashback to our youth at the Tears for Fears and Spandau Ballet concerts. It was an amazing show, but also reminded us that 25 years of our lives had passed.

I was 19 when I first saw them. I was a loyal fan whose wall was covered in their posters. I had all their vinyls, even the limited edition coloured ones. I knew all the words to all their songs. They were my youth.

The once cute band members were now mature aged men. Some had stacked on weight and others had gone bald or grey. Their once young faces showed the wear and tear of 'growing up', getting married, having families - just like their audience!

This was especially highlighed when Spandau Ballet played their old hit Round and Round and included a video of the band when they were younger. It was difficult not to feel your own youth in their video footage and have your own memories flash through your mind - it was a very poignant moment in the concert, where it was difficult to hold back tears.

At the end of the song Spandau Ballet's lead singer, Tony Hadley, finished with the words, "Our lives and your lives"

I think we weren't the only 40 years olds that woke up this mornng and asked the question, "What happened to our lives?"

Nigel seemed a bit sad when he said, "Where did those years go?"

I pondered the question for a while before I answered. I agreed I had felt a knot in my heart and had suddenly realised how 'old' we were now, but my response was a happy one.

"Look at where we are. We have been together for 20 years, surviving marriage together where many haven't.

We have an amazing son. He is healthy, happy, bright and so talented. We couldn't ask for a better gift in our lives. He reflects our love for each other and rocks our world.

We live comfortably and we are about to move in to a home we have spent years designing; a pile of bricks and mutual compromise, patience, trust and the sharing of ideas and opinions.

We have travelled the world together, from the glamour and excitement of New York, London, Berlin, Scandanavia and Alaska to poverty ridden cities in Mexico and Asia.

We either have successful careers, or are working towards them. We have amazing friends and family members, despite losing more and more over the years, like my beautiful mum."

If I had to do it again, I wouldn't change the past 25 years of our lives. What happened to our lives? we 'lived' them!"